Discovering beauty part 2

Hey how have you all been?
 Today I'm going to continue on our journey to discovering beauty.. (I'm sorry for letting you wait this long) If you haven't read the first part please check it out before reading this one, so that you can understand this one better. Click here.
Now I'm going to go on with part 2.

So I had to start accepting myself as beautiful.. I think it was the hardest thing i ever had to do. How can you just start loving yourself after hating yourself for so long? Honestly it's just impossible or maybe it isn't..
Let me give you guys a few tips on how to actually gain confidence. Some might seem stupid, but trust me they actually help.. A LOT !!

1) Surround yourself with the right crowd. Whether you like it or not people influence you constantly. If you're around people who are constantly talking negative about you, how do you expect to become positive? Again it's not impossible, but negativity will just make it harder to stay positive. It shouldn't be the group of people with the newest make-up or the people with the strictest diets, it's the ones with the positive mindset. The ones who will encourage you to achieve your goal at all costs!!

2) Never give up!! I know this is obvious and we all know this one, but actually try to do it!!

3) Wake up every morning stand in front of the mirror and call yourself pretty. I know this is a very childish one, but it does work.. if you do this for some time, you will start to believe it..

4) IGNORE NEGATIVE COMMENTS!!! They're all lies. The people who say negative things about you are usually jealous or they're just being childish and most of the time they don't even know you, so don't let they're comments affect you.

5) Please don't try to hide your face behind layers of make-up!! I know make-up is nice and we like to use it, but girl: you are also beautiful without it!! if you're using make-up to "cover up flaws" lemme tell you this: it's not working and you're waisting time and money! If you want to wear make-up: okay, but make sure your reason is not to "cover the flaws".

Okay so here are  tips to start with.. It's not always an easy journey, but the journey really is worth it!
I wish you all a lovely and blessed Friday!!

~Musa

the little bird

Trapped..

 In a cage.

Not knowing how to escape the cage. Yet I keep trying..

I managed.

Next thing is to get to the window.

I get caught again and put into my cage..

I don’t give up and keep trying.

I try again and I manage again..

This time I get to the window.

I try to open it, I can already smell the fresh cold air outside, 

I’ve almost opened it,

 but I’m too slow…

I get caught and put into my cage again.

Third time, good time…

But how?

How can I escape my cage?

How can I break free and fly along with the other birds?

When will I breathe the fresh air outside?

For now all I know is that one day I will break free and fly with them,

But when?

Discovering beauty part 1

Hey everyone, how have u been?
Okay today I'm going to talk about beauty and self love, but before you continue reading this one, make sure you've read the story that came before this to understand this post. To read the story klick here.

Now that you've read the story you can continue reading this post...

Now this seems like a really silly story, but we actually experience such stories every day. 

We ask ourselves: 

Why are my legs so ugly? Why is my tummy so big? 

Why isn’t my nose shaped like that other nose?  Why don’t I have the perfect eyebrow game? 

Why don’t I hardly have any eyebrows?
Lol, for the people who go through this one: I know the struggle is real.

Why doesn’t that dress look good on me like it did on my friend? Why can’t I be like this one? 

And I can go on and on with questions, but you guys know what I’m trying to say. 

I remember when I was younger I would ask my self so many on those questions that I listed above. 

I really used to get bothered by them. Even know some of the questions still haunt me, 

but just as my mum told my sister: are we crisps? Does it really matter how we look?

Do we really have to change ourselves to be perfect? 

Do we really need the plastic surgery or the extreme diets?

Okay I understand that when you are not healthy, you need to go on a HEALTHY diet and become healthy.

When I was in 1 year of secondary school (1st year of middle school or in some countries grade 7)I used to feel awful about myself.
I used to be laughed at very often. 

They would call me fat and ugly.
They would insult me because of my braids and my clothes.
They would exclude me and tell me that they don’t like me, even if they didn’t know me, just because I looked the way I did.

I used to feel so bad. I didn’t have many friends back then.. 

People would be fake to me a lot of times. 

The few friends I had, would be scared to come up for me,

because they didn’t want to get teased themselves and I understood it, but I felt really bad..

It got so bad that in my 2nd year I started binging. I wouldn’t eat at all during the day 

and when I’d come home I’d eat like a horse.. I did that for 6-7 months, I just kept telling people I was on a diet or that I’d eaten already.

 Instead of loosing weight, I gained a lot and the teasing continued.

 I felt so bad at a certain point, 

that I didn’t even want to live any more.I hated school, I hated everything. 

At home they also noticed me gaining weight and my parents
started telling me to watch what I eat, that made me feel even worse.

They didn’t know that I didn’t eat at all during lunch, they just assumed that I ate,

because I used to pack my own lunch and my sisters’. So they thought I ate, while I’d only pack my sisters’ lunch and go to school like that. 

Sometimes I’d pack for myself, but I just wouldn’t eat it.

 By then I made some friends and they kept telling me to eat, but I just couldn’t. 

In my 3rd year I stopped binging.

 They would be days when I’d forget to pack my lunch (like seriously forget, not faking it),

 but then my friends would scold me and tell me to eat whatever was there..
So we’d share lunches very often, because I just couldn’t get used to making lunch for myself. 

In my 5th year I finally started eating normally. 

My class was much kinder, so I wasn’t teased that much and I had more friends..

I really enjoyed going to school and I reflected on myself a lot during that year (this was last year btw).

I really thought about my actions and what was right and what was wrong
and how I could improve myself.
I figured that if I really wanted to loose weight I should do it for myself and do it properly! If I really wanted to be happy I had to get myself together and start looking at myself differently. I had to try and convince myself of my own beauty, but how?

But okay this post is getting too long, so I’ll write a part 2 soon. :) 

keep this in mind though: 

 

Lots of love,

~Meli, Mita and Musa

Black and yellow...

Hey everyone, how have u been? I hope you all had a nice New Year!! 

Today we’re going to get a little more personal, I'm going to tell you a story!

A few weeks ago my youngest sister, 

who is 4 years old now asked my mum: “Mummy, why am I brown? I’m even close to black you know, why am I black?”

My mum replied:
“you are the most beautiful princess in the world and black is a very beautiful colour.”

My sister then said in an angry tone: “Mummy, you can’t say that, ea!
Everyone is beautiful, you can’t just say that I am the most beautiful princess in the world.” 

(Although she did believe what my mum said and agreed with her, hahaha!)

Now before I continue with this story I’m going to tell you a little more about my sister.

Let me start with this: 

she isn’t normal at all, haha. She is just too smart. 

I can’t believe she realizes things that other age mates don't realize or simply can't. 

She is someone who loves to play, dance and draw a lot and she loves being very childish (lol she is 4) ,
but when she asks you a question or gives you a reason for something, 

she becomes the most serious person ever and if you try to joke with her she'll get angry
(It’s quite funny, because to her it all makes sense, even if some things don’t make sense at all, I mean she is 4.)

Another thing I want to let you know is that she loves crisps,

especially the salty ones, okay to be honest, only the salty ones.

Now let me continue...

After she told my mum off for calling her the most beautiful princess in the world,

she went silent for a minute, then she asked: “but mum crisps is also very nice and it’s white,

so why am I not white?” My mum laughed and said: “are you a crisp?”

My sister knew that mum got her and burst out laughing!

A day later my mum came home from work and found my younger sister’s drawing on the dining table.

I don’t know is any of you know the nick jr. program Ni Hao, Kai Lan? 

So my sister had coloured Kai Lan (the lead character of the show), 

but the way she coloured her in, wasn't the way Kai Lan looks like.. 

    

Now she believed that black is very beautiful, but she also knew that everyone is beautiful! It doesn't matter which color you are, 

❤ YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!! ❤